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Going by the cues

Parents Corner   |  01-Feb-2016

By IC Desk @ Deeksha

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Going by the cues - If what we are doing is not working, we should do something different.

Although the title could be the guiding principle for anything we do, it surely is a game changer in parenthood. To understand its significance and start working in this direction let’s take a moment and reflect on how we react when our children misbehave. How do we respond when there is a conflict between us and our child? Is this response appropriate and in proportion to the situation at hand? More importantly is this response working for us?

If not, isn’t it time for us to try something different?

Say, on an occasion our child comes back from school in a foul mood and starts being quite rude. As a parent we could do several things. We could have reprimanded them and sent them off to their room for example or we could choose to do this:

“You obviously have had a bad day and you could do with a hug.” After saying this, embrace the child tightly and give him/her a kiss. After doing this we may actually feel the tension leaving them instantly and this moment creates a perfect chance to have some healthy communication. Sometimes doing the unexpected gives an element of surprise and in turn can bring unexpected positive reactions.

If we want to change our child’s behaviour, it’s safe to say that we could start by changing our own actions and their reactions will change in response to our changed actions. We can learn to do things differently no matter how long things have been going in the wrong direction.

Going by the cues

During this time when our children are facing the exams, it would make a lot of sense for us to see if what we are doing is working and if not, choose to do something different!

Sandhya Gajaria04-Feb-2016
Thanks a ton for sharing. This is really motivating and a learning for us as a parent. I am sure this will work.
Mohana revalla03-Feb-2016
100 percent worked. Thank you. Happy to be a part of deeksha.
K THIRUMAL RAO 01-Feb-2016
Yes, it makes a lot of difference by giving a hug to the child & taking them into confidence. Especially during exam times, the child requires emotional support and in order that they confide in parents it is good not to create panicky / fear intheir minds.
pushpa 01-Feb-2016
Very true!
Balaji. L. R 01-Feb-2016
Very good college good teachings good environment

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