Tips to Develop Self-Esteem in Your Child
Deeksha | 22-Jan-2019
Self-esteem is one's opinion about themselves and their abilities. It can be low, high or somewhere in-between. Sometimes, people tend to occasionally doubt themselves and low self-esteem is bound to leave the feeling of insecurity. Developing self-esteem is vital but it can be harder, especially for children with attention and learning issues. However, you can help your child develop positive self-esteem by praising his/her efforts and helping them recognise his/her strengths. Here are a few specific ways to help your children build self-esteem:
1. Be a role model to your child
Building a relationship is a two-way street. It requires effort from both sides. While you make your child feel comfortable, it is imperative for you to feel the same and share your thoughts with them. Spend some time with your child and talk about the challenges you are facing and how you are working to overcome it.
This way, your child sees the vulnerable side of you and understands your strengths and weaknesses. Also, in the process, you will be a role model for your child. It is okay to discuss your problems with your child. Sharing your troubles gives them the confidence to speak to you and share their own experiences and troubles.
2. Do not criticise, instead provide constructive feedback
Children often don’t like to talk about their weaknesses. However, providing feedback is important for your child to realise their mistakes and work on it. Addressing these issues can help build your child’s character and personality. This in turn increases your child’s self-esteem and builds them into responsible, confident adults. However, ensure to provide constructive feedback rather than pointing out your child’s faults or mistakes directly. Don’t say negative things to them. Let them know where they can improve and how they can improve. This way, your child appreciates your support and involvement in their life.
3. Focus on your child’s efforts and not the results
While it is important to ensure your child achieves success, as parents it is important for you to not focus on the results alone. You need to know that failure is a part of your child’s life and is merely a stepping stone to success. Ensure your child works hard and you support him/herin their efforts. Tell your child it is okay if the results don’t turn out to be the best of what you expected. Your child should understand the importance of failure and learn how to focus on efforts rather than the outcomes. This way, he/she will develop self-confidence and will learn not to give up.
4. Give your child the freedom to take healthy risks
As parents, your first instinct is to protect your child and guide them through every step. However, every now and then, you must give your child the freedom to take a few risks and learn from their own mistakes. When you give your child the freedom to take risks, it drives in them a sense of responsibility and accountability. It is essential for your child to experience failure. This way, your child will learn to make his/her own decisions and develop problem-solving skills.
Children need to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth and abe proud of their abilities, skills and achievement. That is success in true sense!
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