A happy mind is the key to a pleasant and successful life.
1. Self-Appreciation is Vital
Identify all the qualities that you are proud of. They may be little things such as solving problems, being responsible, being a good listener or being artistic. Make a note of all these qualities you like in yourself, in a notebook. Remind yourself of these good qualities. To take this further, think about the people who were involved and contributed to these qualities. It can be with people whom you had challenging relationships and how they helped you inculcate a few qualities you appreciate about yourself now.
2. Have Gratitude
Robert Emmons, the world's leading scientific expert, in his essay “Why Gratitude is Good” talks about two key things of gratitude:
“First, it's an affirmation of goodness.” “The second part of gratitude is figuring out where that goodness comes from.”
While practising gratitude, think about all the things, people and experiences that you are grateful about. They don't particularly have to be significant things. They can be simple things such as having a meal, watching a movie, reading a poem etc. Be grateful for all the small things you have. When you're grateful for the little things, you tend to be satisfied with what you have. Being satisfied is vital to be happy.
3. Savour Every Moment
Make sure you always live in the moment and savour every moment. There is more to savour in a day if you are aware of it. Notice the small things and enjoy them. When you start savouring something, you will allow yourself to enjoy it and make memories of these moments. In the process, you will stay positive. Being positive keeps you happy and blocks out any negativity.
Watch ‘Happiness is all in your mind’ by Gen Kelsang Nyema.