5 Parenting Takeaways from Will Smith
Parenting is no easy task and requires a lot of introspection and self-learning. While there are different styles of parenting and each couple has their unique parenting style, there are a few couples who are role models. Will Smith, the famous Hollywood actor and his beloved wife Jada Pinkett Smith are a couple from whom we can take parenting tips. Here are a few takeaways from the celebrity couple we can all follow, to ensure our children grow up into great individuals.
Don't punish them: Instead, make them take responsibility for their own actions.
"We don't punish. The way we deal with our kids is, they are responsible for their lives," Will explained in an interview. "Our concept is, as young as possible, give them as much control over their lives. The concept of punishment, our experience has been, has little too much of a negative quality.”
Create a circle of safety: Allow children to take full control of their decisions, their bodies and their creative expression.
Will said, he and Jada also curated space for open conversation with their kids. While chatting with Jimmy Fallon on The Tonight Show he explained, how when the kids were young, they created a "Circle of Safety" in which the kids could tell them anything they wanted - even all the bad things they might have done. "They're allowed to tell us everything that they did [in the circle of safety], and they can't get in trouble," Will said. "The rule is, if we find out after the circle of safety that there was something they didn't say, there was hell to pay.”
Don't let your ego get in the way: Don't condemn your children because they are not good at something.
He reflected on this topic saying, "Because we [Jada and I] are both artists, we decided a long time ago that it's sort of better to flow with what people are naturally, more than what our egos need them to be. We really just try to find the things that they're good at and support those things rather than forcing them."
He noted, "Jaden loves math, and Willow is more of a reader. So, we just support those things." He wants them to be themselves. Along the lines of encouraging his kids in what they're good at, he also wants them to be happy being inherently who they are.
"I feel that the greatest gift that I can give my children is the freedom to be who they are," he told BET. “[My wife] and I are very serious about finding what they are and encouraging them to be what they are because you can never be happy being what you're not.”
Treat them as equals rather than inferior.
Will said "In African American households, there's a concept of your children being property and that was a major part that Jada and I released our kids from. We respect our children the way we would respect any other person. Things like cleaning up their room. You would never tell a full-grown adult to clean their room, so we don't tell our kids to clean their rooms.”
“Parenting-If it is not hard, you are not doing it right,”